Hello, I know how you feel, my appy is buddy sour, what I do is if I take my QH out and she is screaming for him, I just let her, as long as she is safe, if not I put her in the barn with some hay,, to work the other horse. what you can do to help , is work with the horse that is buddy sour more, walk her away from barn and other horses on a lunge line.. put her in a pasture next to the other one but not together, so eventually you can move them farther apart without her having a fit. You will need to work them both but showing her it's ok for one to go away is ok, and will come back.. sometimes if my appy acts up alot when away from the other, I will work her a bit on lunging near him, so she can have the release away from him. I hope some of this helps you..

Tonya, I would work with him, walking him. I dont think it was really him, it was the noise, I know my horses have paniced now and again with the loud noise and realize it was a garbage truck they drive fast anyways with no intent on slowing.. Dont be afraid.

Do you practice this in a figure 8 pattern? My horse does the lead change more dramaticly when I practice this way. Are you changing your cue, or are you consistent? be consistent with the way you ask her and do not get frustrated, your horse knows your moods and can get confused. Maybe go back to basics; ground work and hand cues?

fear is your enemy!! I know you've probably heard it a GAZILLION times before, but your horse feels your fear. Your nephew probably got thrown due to something he did wrong not her, so trust her. THE FIRST STEP TO GETTING A HORSE TO TRUST YOU IS TO TRUST THEM FIRST!! One toss is nothing. I have been thrown so many times, I couldn't even estimate for you. You're actually LUCKY, lol. Cheers!

Also you could try lunging , that helps to gain trust, show's leadership, and helps to get out any pent up energy before you ride.
if she did well with you once i am sure she will again. like the other lady said it's about trust and building trust. pressure and releash is also a good method in everything you do with your horse.

Spend some time with her, groom her, hand graze her, sit with her in her stall/pasture. Work with her in the round penn, backing, keeping her out of your space, lounging with or without the lounge line. Did you ask what happened with your nephew while he was riding her, what did he do, did he ask her to do something that she wasn't prepared to do? Find out why, what she spooked at, then work her from there...

Good luck, don't give up!
Brandi

I would ask the nephew the exact circumstances surrounding the incident. I have been tossed a couple of times overthe past 30 years, and it was always at least 50% my fault.
Jaqueline is right, the mare can sense your fear through your actions. Start in a round pen with some basic exercises that she should know from her initial training.
If that works OK for you and you are still nervous about riding her, ask someone you know to ride her a couple of times for you, I have done that for friends before, it helps both rider and horse.
Good luck and remember to have fun when you work her.
Mike

Don't let anyone else on her. Especially in the short time of owning her.I don't like anyone else on my horse except my trainer. Just because we all ride differently and if someone else got on Deja, they'd likely ride him differently and itd start messing with is head and mess up what I have with him, and the work and training me and my trainer have put in him.

Might try pulling all shoes off. My horse was tripping and stumbling and drug his hind feet, and we acutally started getting kinda freaked and got him tested for EPM, after that. Then my grandpa who is a farrier pulled his shoes and changes his angles and he moves great now. Suggest it to your farrier. Yes try a diferent trainer, one you both are comfortable with. I've never heard of any horses like that... I'm not sure what else to say, except keep working with him and trying. He may just not be the horse for you. That happens. No matter how much you try with a horse they still just don't click with you sometimes..

Have you done lunge work? What I would try is lunge yourhorse and when he goes to stop or slow down, ask him with show of whip or crack of whip toward ground to keep moving till you ask him to slow or stop, I would also do this while horse is saddled... also keep lunge near you when you ride in arena so if he stops. you can then lunge and ask him to move forward till you ask him to stop.. remember to work both sides of horse, never just one side.